Lately I’ve been pretty MIA from Social Media. There are a few reasons for that. One being I’ve been given this AMAZING opportunity to come with my husband to his job, the other being I am trying to be more in tune with not only myself, but with my family.
Here’s the thing, I’ve had numerous people tell me that I’m brave, or say they don’t know how I do it. “That” being live out of a hotel room in a strange town with two small children under the age of two. Well I’ll let you in on my secret. I’m married to an amazing man who sacrifices so much for our family. He works away from home so that I can be at home with our babies. When he sees the opportunity for us to come along there is absolutely no way that I could say no to him.
He is gone for 3 weeks out of a month! Of course I’m going to say “heck yes” to extra hands at the end of the day. I wouldn’t stay at home for the comfort, over watching our oldest daughter run to him with her arms up with the BIGGEST smile on her face when he walks through the door at the end of the day. I wouldn’t want him to miss the moment that Hunter takes her first steps, when Rhys took hers he was on his way home only an hour away. This man loves me and our children. It’s a small sacrifice.
We find things to do in a day. We aren’t stuck to being in a hotel room 24/7! I have more friends here than I know what to do with. We go for lunches, we go for play dates, we go shopping..the list could go on. If I stayed at home I would honestly have less to do.
I knew what I was getting into when I married this man and we decided to start a family. I grew up with a dad who worked away and it SUCKED! However, when he was home it was the best. That being said, my dad didn’t always have the opportunity to take his family with him as he was a long haul truck driver. There would be the odd occasion where my mom would pull us out of school for a week and we could go, but it’s not the same opportunity my girls have.
I’ve gotten quite off topic. The topic being “How Connected Are You?” Friends, I have this amazing support system of people. I have my husband for starters, and my amazing neighbour. She knew me through my husband but didn’t really know ME. At a strata meeting one night she reached out to me and invited me to a mommy and me play cafe at the Church. I’m quite introverted so at first I REALLY didn’t want to go, but she invited me and I felt honoured and I went. This broke me out of my shell and I continued going.
I’ve also met a crazy amount of supportive women through Instagram. I felt reaching out to them through Social Media might be weird but I just Direct Messaged them and started talking. They responded. Friendships and connections have been built since then. They are my tribe and I love them dearly. I am so thankful for these women who come to me with their daily woes and let me rant and we just understand each other.
I’m getting long winded here, so what I want to say is that you’re not alone out there. GO, build your tribe! Whether it be on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or real human connections, don’t be a martyr. You’re not alone. Face motherhood with a friend who is also in the trenches with you. TALK to your husband, fiance, boyfriend, partner. They are there to support you and they will, no matter what! Even at my MOST CRAZY Nick will still tell me that I’m beautiful and he loves me and that there’s nothing I can’t do. Everyone needs a Nick. If you don’t have a Nick, I will be YOUR Nick!